I am not an emotional person, though I sometimes play one in certain circumstances. I have a slow-burn temper, something I have cultivated as I have “matured.” One way I do this is by pretending to be mad well before I’m actually mad. This generally gets the other person to dial it down first then I can go back to pretending not to be mad. It’s complicated, but it works. I think of myself as more a Mr. Spock. Logical. A new book, Emotional: How Feelings Shape Our Thinking suggests that more than we know emotions influence our thinking. In the graphic, the book reviewer uses a great example.
When we are in love, when we are touched by someone or something, when we are sad or lonely—all of these or any of these—influence the choices our left brain makes. Damn, dominant right brain. I’m still sticking with my anger-management strategy, unless of course, I learn that letting it fly is exactly what is called for to achieve long-term balance. Nah. A successful strategy is a successful choice.
This book is definitely going on my to-read list.
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/emotional-feelings-shape-thinking-bookbite/31632